In June 2015, I helped Connections For Children run a social media campaign in honor of Father’s Day (#DaddyQuotes). We used serious, charming or even silly quotes (mostly famous or known) that spoke of dads and their significant influence in the lives of children.
At that time, I had been a dad of precocious twin boys for nearly three years and could understand the beautiful difficulty of such a role. But, that wasn’t why it was easy for me to relate to each and every quote. Every reference for a good father presented my appreciation for my own dad, a man who raised three children on his own, the youngest (me) from age 2 onward. He was there to cook every dinner, coach every baseball game, school drop-off and pick-up, and emergency—big or small.
It was also in 2015 that my dad passed away from cardiac arrest.
Born in Revere, Massachusetts, my dad moved to California with his parents and siblings in the early 60s. He got decent grades, avoided the draft, hung out with hippies (probably was one at some point too), traveled through every mainland state by car, managed a rock band, fished in Alaska, went hunting, avidly attended Tina Turner concerts, rocked a handlebar mustache, got married, worked hard, owned a business, purchased a home, and was a father to three children.
There’s more to his story, of course. But, if you were to ask him, he’d say the last one topped the list.
So, what does Father’s Day mean to me? It means it’s my privilege to show appreciation to my dad; it’s my duty to try to be as good a father as he was. That means I’m present for the things that matter, and even the things that don’t. He was always there until he physically couldn’t be any longer, and I will do the same thing for my kids. That’s really the best way for me to honor him and the sacrifices he made for me. He deserves that, and so do most father's.
This Father's Day, tell your dad just how important he is. Because like it or not, he won't be around one day to tell him. Trust me, it matters.